So I guess I’m a bit of a perfectionist, I have firm ideas of what I want to do, where I want to go and what I want to achieve in life. And the problem with that is that sometimes I don’t make room for other possibilities, things that may work out just as well as I thought my ‘ideals’ would. And so when things don’t go as I’d hoped, I tend to let myself sink into a pit, and think that there is no other way, but this is such an unhealthy and unnecessary way of thinking, as I’ve come to understand now.
For all we know, that ‘perfect ideal’ we had in our minds could have actually just been a second or third best, not what’s actually best for us as individuals. So why should we settle for something that’s not the best for us? I’m going to make a really cheesy analogy here now, so bear with me, but I just want to demonstrate a point…. think of a map, there is always more than one route to get to your destination right? some may be quicker, others may take a bit longer and seem a bit more hard going, some a bit windy and unsure, you may stop sometimes and get a bit lost, but they all take you to the same place, you end up where you want to be. So maybe it doesn’t matter if we take a different route than originally planned, as that route will turn out to be the best one for us.
So my lessons (to myself, and to anyone else who can relate) are to be open minded to new routes in life, to not freak out when I don’t quite know where I’m going, but to persevere and have a bit of patience.
Sophie
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